Consider for a moment if you will the following questions:
Do you have issues with your business that are unresolved?
Do you spend hours fretting over how to resolve apparently irresolvable issues?
Do you get peaceful relaxing night’s sleep every night? Or are you lying awake going over and over some problem or problems?
Do you feel you are stuck in an unproductive loop where you go round and round in circles, never getting anywhere?
Is your energy spent getting you through the day rather than focusing on the future and how you can increase profits and achieve the life you truly want? Do issues or problems drag you down and drain your energy; do you lack the energy to develop strategies to overcome problems or avoid them altogether and move forward?
If you answered yes to any of these questions then read on, for this article is designed to help you overcome such problems and give you tools that you can use to get rid of worry once and for all.
Did you know that some Doctors believe that most medical problems are caused in the first instance by anxiety or constant worry? The gnawing kind that eats away at your wellbeing and seem to grow the longer they continue? Don’t get me wrong, I am not for a minute saying that the medical condition is not valid and in many cases extremely painful. It is simply that most originate from a state of mind where anxiety and stress insidiously creep in to our lives and before we know it the ulcer is there or arthritis has formed or some other disease.
Dr Edward Podolsky wrote a book called “Stop worrying and get well” in it he describes the effect that worry has on:
– The heart
– High blood pressure is fed by worry
– Rheumatism can be caused by worry
– Stomach ulcers and colon problems are all fed by worry – literally twisting the gut
– Thyroid problems
Dr Karl Menninger also wrote a book called “Man against himself”. If you want to stop working against yourself then get this book. It reveals what you do to yourself when you permit destructive emotions to dominate your life.
This article is aimed at helping you get to the source of the “dis – ease” and not only get tools to alleviate the symptoms but to help ensure they do not recur and prevent them forming in the first place.
I have run my own business for over 10 years, during which time have successfully overcome some major traumas, not least of which the death of my husband to cancer and getting my still young children through the loss of their father; and coping with a professional con man who targeted me at that vulnerable time to rob me of a significant amount of money.
So you can rest assured that I do truly understand what worry is. I really do know how anxiety can seep into every aspect of your life and drain your energy.
Yet using the strategies I outline in this article these issues have been dealt with and overcome and a successful growing business has been built. I sleep at peace deeply every night. I share the tools presented in this article with warmth and a genuine desire to help any of you who may be suffering or anxious at the time of reading. These tools are not only born of personal experience but years of study and reading a variety of authors on the subject.
Put simply they work.
As with every element of knowledge that you will read or learn it is only ever useful if it is applied. With that in mind, here we go. Take the strategies that you like the sound of and work them and ignore the rest………
Strategy 1: Focus on today
How many hours are wasted in people’s lives spent dwelling on that which cannot be changed or undone, or that which has not yet happened?
Take this example from Dale Carnegie’s book “How to stop worrying and start living” of a young g man named Ted Bengermino who in April 1945 had worried himself into a condition Called “spasmodic transverse colon” a condition that produced intense pain. He says if the war had not ended when it did he believes he would have had a complete physical breakdown. In April 1945 he writes… “I was exhausted. I was a Graves Registration Non-commissioned officer for the 94th Infantry division. My work was to help set up and maintain records of all men killed in action, missing in action and hospitalised. I also had to help disinter the bodies of both Allied and enemy soldiers who had been killed and hastily buried in shallow graves during the pitch of battle. I had to gather up the personal effects of these men and see they were sent back to parents or closest relatives who would prize these personal effects so much. I was constantly worried for fear we might be making embarrassing and serious mistakes. I was worried about whether to not I would come through all of this. I was worried about whether I would live to hold my child in my arms – a son of sixteen months whom I had never seen. I was so worried and exhausted that I lost thirty-four pounds. I was so frantic that I was almost out of my mind. I looked at my hands; they were hardly more than skin and bones. I was terrified at the thought of going home a physical wreck. I broke down and sobbed like a child. I was so shaken that tears welled up every time I was alone. There was one period after the battle of the bulge started that I wept so often that i almost gave up hope of ever being a normal human being again.
I ended up in the Army dispensary. An Army doctor gave me some advice that has completely changed my life. After giving me a thorough physical examination he informed me that my troubles were mental. “Ted” he said “I want you to think of your life as an hourglass. You know there are thousands of grains of sand in the top of the hourglass; and they all pass slowly and evenly through the narrow neck in the middle. Nothing you or I could do would make more than one grain of sand pass through this narrow neck without impairing the hourglass. You and I and everyone else are like this hourglass. When we start in the morning, there are hundreds of tasks which we feel that we must accomplish that day, but if we do not take them one at a time and let them pass through the day slowly and evenly, as do the grains of sand passing through he narrow neck of the hourglass. Then we are bound to break our own physical or mental structure. I have practised that philosophy ever since that memorable day that an Army doctor gave it to me.
One grain of sand at a time………. One task at a time.
That advice saved me physically and mentally during the war and has also helped me to my present position in business. I found the same problems arising in business that had arisen during the war: a score of things had to be done at once – and there was little time to do them. We were low in stocks. We had new forms to handle, new stock arrangements, changes of address, opening and closing offices and so on. Instead of getting taut and nervous, I remembered what the doctor had told me “one grain of sand at a time. One task at a time”. By repeating those words to myself over and over, I accomplished my tasks in a more efficient manner and I did my work without he confused and jumbled feeling that had almost wrecked me on the battlefield”
Live one day at a time. One task at a time. It is amazing how much can be accomplished when we live like this.
Does this mean that we should not make any effort to prepare for tomorrow? No, not at all. However, the best possible way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your energies, intelligence, all your enthusiasm on doing today’s work superbly today.
In World War 2, our military leaders planned for the morrow but they could not afford to have any anxiety. Admiral Ernst J King, who directed the United States Navy, said “I have supplied the best men with the best equipment we have and have given them what seems to be the wisest mission. That is all I can do”
We can do no more than our best. Whether in war or in peace the chief difference between good thinking and bad thinking g is that good thinking deals with cause and effects and leads to logical constructive planning. Bad thinking frequently leads to tension and nervous breakdowns.
Thomas Carlyle lead a life free from worry by applying this principle: “our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand”
Ask yourself these questions…
- Do I tend to put off living in the present in order to worry about the future or to yearn for some “magical rose garden over the horizon”?
- Do I sometimes embitter the present by regretting things that happened in the past – that are over and done with?
- Do I get up in the morning determined to “Seize the day” – to get the utmost out of these twenty four hours?
- When shall I start to do this? Next week? Tomorrow? Today?
So strategy number 1 is to simply let go that which has gone and cannot be undone.
Let tomorrow come when it will. Focus your energies on today putting your effort into getting the most out of every day. Taking one task at a time. Put your focus into actions that will move you forward.
Yesterday is past
Tomorrow is not promised us
So make the most of the present for it is a gift
Strategy 2: Enlist help where you can
How many people think they have to resolve every problem that arises by themselves? When very often, especially in business, they are surrounded by people better qualified than themselves or with specific experience of the issue at hand.
There is no rule or law written that states that the business owner has to know all the answers. There will be times when it is prudent to seek out the help of specialists.
One of the worst features of worry is that destroys our ability to think clearly and concentrate. This is especially true if we do not possess the technical skills or knowledge to solve the problem. We feel we “should” know the answer and put ourselves under tremendous pressure. When we worry our minds jump here and there and everywhere and we lose all power of decision. Does this image ring true for you? Have you ever stood in the middle of the room and literally turned a 360 degree turn and not known which way to go? That is the time to talk to someone, to use the expertise of others and relieve ourselves of the burden of knowing all the answers.
If you are a sole trader there will always be someone who knows someone who can help. Very often all that they are waiting for is to be asked.
It is human nature to want to help people. Have you ever asked for help and had it refused? I suspect highly unlikely. People love to be asked if they can help and will often go out of their way to do so.
Here are some simple steps that will help:
- Identify clearly what the problem is, write it down. It is amazing what power this simple act has, suddenly all can become a lot clearer by simply writing down what the problem actually is. Often times once you are looking at it in black and white it will not seem such a monster as it was in your mind alone.
- Identify honestly whether you have the skill set needed to resolve the different aspect of the problem
- Identify who may be better suited to look at the various elements of the problem
- Seek advice from those better suited than you to resolve each element.
Taking action, even action where you seek someone else to help can lift an immense weight from you.
Keep yourself busy. The best cure for all ills is to take action. Any action. Be busy.
So strategy number 2 is to accept that you do not have to be a genius in all, or indeed any, field to be a success. Knowing the right people to ask for help or information is one of the keys of successful business and worry elimination.
Strategy 3: Learn how to analyse and solve worry problems
Rudyard Kipling wrote:
I keep six honest serving men
(They taught me all I know):
Their names are what and Why and When and How and Where and Who.
The basic steps of problem analysis are:
- Get the facts
- Analyse the facts
- Arrive at a decision —- and then ACT on that decision
So often worry is caused from a state of indecision. We go in the proverbial circles and never come to a conclusion. Where most often making a decision and taking action, any action, will resolve the problem. Even if in hindsight the decision turns out to not have been the best that could have been made. It doesn’t matter; the pain of indecision is far greater than the pain of a wrong decision.
Let’s look at each step in turn.
- Get the facts. – Unless we have all the facts we can’t even possibly attempt to solve our problems intelligently. Without the facts we stew around in confusion. Herbet E Hawkes declared “confusion is the chief cause of worry, half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision” He said if he has a problem that has to be faced at 3pm, next Tuesday then he refuses to even try to make a decision about it until 3pm next Tuesday. In the meantime he concentrates on getting all the facts that bear on the problem. I do not worry. I do not agonise over my problem. I do not lose any sleep. I simply concentrate on getting all the facts, and by next Tuesday come around, if I’ve got all the facts the problem usually solves itself.
“If a man will devote his time to securing all the facts in an impartial, objective way, his worries will usually evaporate in the light of knowledge”
Is this what most of us do? I do not think so. As Thomas Edison put it “there is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the labour of thinking” – if we bother with facts at all, we hunt after the facts that bolster up what we already think, and ignore all the others! We want only the facts that justify our acts – the facts that fit in conveniently with our wishful thinking and justify our pre conceived prejudices!
Is it any wonder then that we find it so hard to get at the answers to our problems?
So how do we overcome this? We have to keep our emotions out of our thinking and as Dean Hawkes put it we must secure the facts in an impartial objective manner.
This is not an easy task when we are worried. As then our emotions are riding high. Here are a couple of ideas from Dale Carnegies’ that may help:
- Pretend you are collecting the information for someone else. This takes the personal element out of it and helps you take a more impartial view of the evidence
- Pretend you are a lawyer preparing to argue the other side in the issue. In other words try to get all the facts against yourself – all the facts that are damaging to your wishes, all the facts I don’t like to face.
- Analyse the facts – Clearly define what it is you are worrying about. Again here write it down: A problem well stated is a problem half solved. The simple act of writing it down often clarifies the position.
Identify the cause of the problem. Find the root of the problem, what have the riggers been that started you off down this road. So many people waste so much energy and time worrying about something without ever finding out clearly what caused the problem or even clearly defining exactly what the problem is.
View the facts from both sides. Once you have collected all the facts then write down both my side of the case and the other side of the case – generally you will find the truth and the answer lies somewhere in between these two extremes.
Identify all the possible solutions. All the possible things you can do about it. Come up with a list of your options. Again the act of writing down all the possible options brings clarity to your thinking, and often one jumps out at you.
As you write your options out you will be drawn to one or two and they will then form the basis of your decision. Let your mind flow over the options, stating clearly what each is and you will be amazed how one will jump out at you.
- Arrive at a decision – Pick one of the options identified and start immediately carrying out that decision. Get into action. Do something about it. Unless we carry out our decision all our fact finding and analysis is a sheer waste of energy.
Once a decision is reached and action takes over then dismiss absolutely all responsibility and worry over the outcome. Do not stop to reconsider. Do not paralyse yourself with endless analyses. Take action. Go with it. Some action is better than none, better than endless analysis. Don’t begin to hesitate, worry and retrace your steps. Don’t lose yourself in self doubt. Don’t keep looking back over your shoulder.
If you have gathered the facts impartially and identified all your possible options, and have been drawn to one. Go with it. ACT. For whatever the outcome will be it will be far better than staying in a place of indecision. Use the other strategies outlined in this report to determine you can and will deal with whatever the outcome is.
Keeping busy in this way is of itself a strong strategy for eliminating worry. It always feels better to be doing something rather than nothing, giving in to despair.
So strategy number 3 is to gather all the pertinent information and facts connected with your problem, identify all possible solutions and let yourself be drawn to one then ACT on it and do not look back
Strategy 4: Consider the worst and comes to terms with it
This strategy is especially effective in situations where to start with you can see no way out. It is immensely lifting and relieves a huge amount of tension and pressure when we realise what the very worst that could happen is and that we can deal with it.
When the professional con man had targeted me while my husband was dying and I discovered that my husband had changed his will so that I would get nothing. At the time it was difficult to focus on work due to the emotional strain of everything thus my income dropped and there was a real possibility I would lose my home and have to move my children at a time of high stress for them and, had I let them, these weighty issues threatened to engulf me. However, employing this strategy of considering the very worst that could happen, then coming to terms with it helped me get through and indeed go on to turn things around. I realised that a house is only bricks and mortar and that the most important thing was my children, we still had each other and our health, and really nothing else mattered.
Here is a simple 3 step formula to deal with this:
- Ask yourself “what is the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve my problem?”
- Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worse if necessary
- Then calmly try to improve upon the worst. With the release of the worst of your shoulders you are able to think more clearly through alternative strategies that will improve the situation.
True peace of mind comes from accepting the worst according to a Chinese philosopher. Simply put it releases energy when we accept the very worst that can happen, we get a “new lease of life” when we have accepted the worst we have nothing more to lose, and that automatically means we have everything to gain.
Consider this example: A New York oil dealer was being blackmailed. He didn’t think that kind of thing happened in real life, only the movies but it was true, he was being blackmailed. What happened was this: He was the head of an oil company and had a number of delivery trucks and drivers. At that time the OPA regulations were strictly in force and they were rationed on the amount of oil they could deliver to any one of their customers. ~Unbeknownst to this dealer one of his drivers had been delivering oil short to their regular customers and then reselling the surplus to customers of their own. The first the head of company knew about it was when he got a visit from a man claiming to be a government inspector and demanded hush money. He said he had documentary proof of what his drivers had been doing and he threatened to turn the proof over to the District Attorney’s office if he didn’t cough up.
Now the head of this company knew he had nothing to worry about personally, but he also knew that the law says a firm is responsible for the actions of its employees, and what’s worse if the case came to court and was aired in the newspapers the bad publicity would ruin his business.
He was so worried he was sick, he didn’t eat or sleep for 3 days or nights. He kept going round in crazy circles. Should he pay the money $5,000 or should he tell the man to go ahead and do his worse? Either way he tried to make up his mind it ended in a nightmare.
Then he happened to pick up Dale Carnegie’s paper on worry that he had picked up from his class on public speaking and came across a story of Willis H Carter and his advice to face the worst. So he asked himself what is the worst that could happen if I refuse to pay up and these blackmailers turn their records over to the District Attorney’s office? The answer was the ruin of his business, that’s the worst that can happen. He wouldn’t go to jail; all that would happen is that he would be ruined by the publicity. Then he said to himself “alright the business is ruined, I accept that mentally. What happens next? Well with my business ruined I would probably have to look for a job. That wasn’t bad. I knew a lot about oil there were several firms that might be glad to employ me” He began to feel better. The blue haze which he had been in for the past 3 days and nights began to lift a little. His emotions calmed down …. And to his astonishment he was able to think.
He was clear headed enough to face step 3 – improve on the worst. As he thought of solutions an entirely new angle presented itself. If he told his attorney the whole situation he might be able to find a way out which I hadn’t thought of. It sounds stupid but this hadn’t even occurred to him before – but then he hadn’t been thinking he had only been worrying. So he made up his mind to see his attorney first thing in the morning – then he went to bed and slept like a log!
How did it end? Well his lawyer told him to go to the District Attorney’s office and tell him the truth, and that is what he did. When he had finished he was amazed to hear the D.A tell him that this blackmail racket had been going on for months and that the man who claimed to be a government agent was a crook wanted by the police. Can you imagine the relief? To hear that after the days and nights of torment?
Never be too big to ask for help. Often you are given a different perspective on a situation, one that alone you may never come up with.
So Strategy number 4 is to accept the worst that can happen for that will release your energy, give you a new lease of life which will enable you to think more clearly to find a solution. It will literally “life a weight from your shoulders”
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
The courage to change the things I can;
And the wisdom to know the difference
Strategy 5: Relax
Now I hear you saying “Oh yes easy for you to say” and I understand that when you are embroiled in a problem and worrying yourself sick, literally, about it that it can be immensely difficult to relax and rest. So strategy number 5 is all about developing habits throughout life that you can fall back on at times of hard ship and stress.
If you live a life where you have inbuilt relaxation techniques, methods that are tried and trusted to make you feel better about yourself then they will come into their own when you really need them at times of stress and worry.
Develop a daily routine that includes some physical activity. Of the sort that you enjoy. Do you like taking a walk? Do you enjoy 30 minutes in the gym? Or swimming? Or perhaps you enjoy doing a home workout watching one of the myriad of exercise videos that are available. Whatever is right for you, whatever you enjoy build it into your daily routine. The operative word here is enjoy, there is no point doing something that you dislike or you do because you feel you have to, or worse, because you feel you should. Find something that you really enjoy doing. Yoga? Pilates? Spin class? Anything it doesn’t matter so long as it is physical.
We all know the benefits of regular exercise. It is usually spoken about in terms of the healthy lifestyle from the perspective of weight loss and ideal body mass. However I am proposing here that having a lifestyle that involves some form of physical activity daily will also help you keep your energy levels at the level that will enable you to better deal with stressful situations, and especially give you an outlet, a means to vent when you are worrying.
During exercise people generally find themselves focusing on the task at hand, if walking we look around us and see the world. If you work to develop this habit then when you are worried you will have an automatic mechanism that will enable you to switch off, and that alone can be invaluable in helping you overcome whatever the problem to hand is.
We are not talking spending an hour in the gym every day. 20 minutes is all you need aim for. Think about that for a second. If someone were to say to you go spend an hour exercising I bet most of you would respond “oh I can’t possibly do that I don’t have the time” now consider the 20 minute time slot…. Feels easier doesn’t it? 20 minutes is after all not a large chunk of time, “Oh I can easily fit 20 minutes in”
In addition, develop the habit of relaxing your body every day, just before sleep is a good time, but any time that works for you is fine. Here again think about doing it for just 20 minutes for the reasons given above. There are many meditation tapes and self hypnosis tapes available or follow this simple routine….
Lie down in a comfortable place, or if at work in a lunch hour sit back in your chair with your head and arms supported. Close your eyes. Take a deep breath that fills your lungs and breathe out slowly. Repeat these 3 times each time thinking only of the breath you are taking.
Now concentrate on your feet and imagine them becoming very heavy, mentally try to lift them and you can’t they are heavy, heeeaaaavvvvyyyyy, Turn your focus to your calves and see them as so heavy you cannot lift them, then your knees, upper thighs. Breathing deeply all the time. Move on up to your pelvis, stomach, chest, arms, hands and at each area as you breathe out imagine the area to be heavy, relaxed all tension gone. Work on up to your shoulders, neck and head. Imagine your eyes are so heavy you cannot open them, the muscles around your mouth relaxed, heavy, lose. The muscles by your eyes loose and your forehead smooth heavy tension gone.
Once you have worked your way up your body in this manner concentrating only on each area of your body and your breathing, continue taking deep breaths for a while longer then slowly open your eyes.
The whole process will take just 20 minutes and the lightness you will feel after will re energise you for the rest of the day or enable you to sleep a deeply relaxed sleep. Waking the next day, refreshed and ready with a much clearer head.
Now if you have developed both these habits while things are going well for you. Imagine for a second the power they will have to help you in a situation of extreme stress where you are worried about the outcome of something. As Dr Alexis Carrel said “those who keep the peace of their inner selves in the midst of the tumult of the modern city are immune from nervous disease”
So strategy number 5 is develop a lifestyle of daily physical activity for just 20 minutes a day and take your body to a place of deep relaxation for 20 minutes. Making these two activities a habit in your life will help you to overcome any stressful situation should it arise.
Strategy 6: Develop an attitude of gratitude
The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven. So if we think and act cheerfully we will feel cheerful, eventually! It may take a little time but try this exercise… Smile, a big beaming broad smile… now say something that makes you feel down, miserable, the smile goes doesn’t it? It’s almost impossible to smile and feel down. So when we feel down smile to help us feel better.
Living our lives grateful for what we actually have in them today is one of the most powerful ways to eliminate worry completely, forever. Letting not the past bother neither us, nor fretting over what the future may bring simply thanking the world for what we have today. No matter what is happening in our lives there will always be something we can be grateful for, even if it is no more than the sun has risen that day. If we choose to focus on that which is good in our lives we will attract more of the same into them.
How much of your time and energy is spent fretting over the small things? That may or may not happen and even if they did how much effect do they really have? So let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by the small things we should despise and forget. Remember Disraeli said “life is too short to be little.” Consider how much time and energy is wasted worrying over trifles? Take the decision not to let the little things to ruin your happiness. Make the choice to be grateful for what you have however large or small it is.
Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth.
How important is the issue to you really?
At what point will I put a “stop-loss” order on this worry and forget it?
Exactly how much shall I pay for this whistle? Have I already paid what it is worth?
To put it another way: we are fools if we overpay for a thing in terms of what it takes out of our very existence.
Yet this is precisely what Gilbert and Sullivan did. They knew how to create gay words and music but they knew distressingly little about how to create gaiety in their own lives. They created some of the loveliest light operas that ever delighted the world but they could never control their tempers. Their embittered their years over nothing more than the price of a carpet! Sullivan ordered a new carpet for the theatre they had bought. When Gilbert saw the bill he hit the roof. They battled it out in court and never spoke to one another again as long as they lived. When Sullivan wrote the music for a new production he mailed it to Gilbert and when Gilbert wrote the words he mailed it back to Sullivan. Once they had to take a curtain call together but they stood on opposite sides of the stage and bowed in different directions so they wouldn’t see one another. They hadn’t the sense to put a stop loss order on their resentments. What a price they paid for their whistle!
When Benjamin Franklin was seven years old he made a mistake that he remembered for seventy years. When he was a lad of seven he fell in love with a whistle. He was so excited about it that he went into the toyshop piled all his pennies on the counter and demanded the whistle without even asking the price. “I then came home” he wrote to a friend seventy years later “and went whistling all over the house, much pleased with my new whistle” but when his older brothers and sisters found out that he had paid far more for his whistle than he should have paid they gave him the horse laugh and as he said “I cried with vexation”. Years later when Franklin was a world famous figure and Ambassador to France he still remembered that the fact he had paid too much for the whistle had caused him “more chagrin than the whistle gave him pleasure”. But the lesson it taught Franklin was cheap in the end. “As I grew up” he said “and came into the world and observed the actions of men. I thought I met with many very many, who gave too much for their whistle. In short he saw that a great part of the miseries of mankind are brought upon them by false estimates they have made of the value of things, and by their giving too much for their whistles”
Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true “that most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be”. Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.
- Just or today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, my luck as they come and fit myself to them
- Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding
- Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will not be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.
- Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out; I will do at least two things I don’t want to, as William James suggests just for exercise
- Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticise not at all, nor find fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone
- Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appal me if I had to keep them up for a lifetime
- Just for today I will have a programme. I will write down what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurry and indecision
- Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax. In this half hour I will sometimes think of the wider universe, however I perceive it, and consider my place within it.
- Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love and to believe that those I love, love me.
So strategy 6 is that “Just for today” develop the mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness and eliminate worry from your life…