If you’re attracted to Asian girls, I can definitely relate to you. I love beautiful Asian women and have dated girls from many different cultures and countries, including Japan, Thailand, Korea, Indonesia and the Philippines.
Asian women make us feel this powerful attraction for many different reasons, and there are also many reasons why the right Asian woman can make an ideal partner for you. But if you’re to make these girls feel attracted to YOU, you’ve got to understand what makes them “tick.” So here are ten tips that will help you make the right first impression on hot Asian girls, and move things towards romance…
1. First, you need to realize that the term “Asian women” is very broad and contains a lot of sub-categories. Most Western guys think the “Asian women” label refers only to Japanese or Chinese women. The term Asian actually includes over include 40 different nationalities and ethnic groups. There are many variations in the Philippines alone, where there’s been a lot of mixing of different cultures over the centuries. (For example, some filipinas you meet will have more of a “Latina” look due to the Spanish influence, while others have a more “oriental” look due to the Chinese influence.)
You should also never mention that you have dated other Asian women in the past. This isn’t going to make her think that you “understand” her. There’s actually a pretty good chance that it will make her suspicious. Asian women (especially those who live in the West) are creeped out by the idea of guys who have “yellow fever” (i.e. they have a fetish for Asian women). She wants to be appreciated for her own unique qualities.
2. The stereotype that Asian women are meek and submissive is generally false, however Asian women do want a masculine man — one who can play the role of the provider and protector. This is a huge reason why Western guys find Asian women so appealing — and will often never go back to Western women once they’ve had relationships with Asian girls. They are purely feminine, and desire a man who exudes masculinity.
This means that with hot Korean Girls, you can’t be co-dependent or clingy. Asian men don’t behave this way and if you do, it’s going to turn off Asian women. They want to feel SAFE with a man who is a decision-maker and protector, and who is in control of his emotions. Asian women won’t feel comfortable with a guy who is needy, overly sensitive, and complains about his problems.
3. Asian women are particularly attracted to guys who treat them like gentlemen, but have somewhat of a mischevious “bad boy” edge. They also find it highly attractive when a strong, masculine guy can display a softer, more playful side. Hollywood stars like Brad Pitt, Leonardo DiCaprio, Matt Damon, and George Clooney are very popular in Asia because they exhibit these qualities. Just remember, be even-tempered and emotionally stable when you are with Asian women. Never lose your cool.
4. You must be intelligent and preferably well-educated, since Asians put a high value on education and wisdom. Also, have various passions and pursuits that you can share with her. You want her to get the sense that she will become a better, more knowledgeable and well-rounded person by being with you.
5. Always behave yourself in public. Guys who are loud, rude, or “show off” in public aren’t going to get anywhere with hot Asian girls. They also appreciate proper manners, such as helping them to remove their coat, or pulling out their chair and helping them to sit down in a restaurant.
6. Demonstrate some familiarity with her country, its culture, and her religion. Having an appreciation for her native cuisine is also very helpful. If she is Westernized, she probably eats Western food, generally–but when she’s with her family, they surely still cook their favorite exotic dishes. Learning to cook one of her favorite ethnic meals for her will score you big points.
7. A tip for all you guys who are communicating over the Internet with women from Asian countries: get her to chat with you on a webcam as soon as possible. There are a ton of girls on the Asian dating sites who are looking to find a foreign boyfriend, which is great, but there are a lot of games being played. Some women will post misleading pictures in their profile, or in some cases they’ll use a picture of another person entirely. If she has an excuse why she can’t appear on webcam, you can assume she’s trying to hide something. Every scene I’ve visited in Asia, from the big cities to the poor provinces, now has Internet cafes — and if the computer she’s using doesn’t have a webcam, there is surely one down the street.
8. Never give Asian women the sense that you are a “playboy” who dates different women and isn’t interested in having a serious relationship with anyone. Asian girls want to know that there at least a CHANCE of you getting serious with her. You don’t need to talk about any of this heavy “relationship stuff” when you’re first getting to know her, but you definitely don’t want to give her the sense that you’re only looking for fun with no strings attached. (In the Philippines, they call these men “butterflies” — always flittering from one flower to the next.)
9. High-tech gadgets are very popular with Asian women — the latest mobile phones, digital cameras, laptops, etc. You’ll impress Asian girls if you carry any of these items (and they also make for great conversation starters). Asian guys tend to be really up on this stuff. Also, when you’re knowledgable about computers and technology — even if this just means owning a few cool gadgets — Asian women take this as a sign that you are a smart person who is moving up in life. In Asia, being adept with computers and technvology is a sign of a successful person.
10. Here’s my last tip on being attractive to Asian women: understand and accept that they have extremely close ties to their families. Don’t tell her that she needs to be more independent and ignore their advice or wishes. This can be tricky, because there may be times when you want to spend time with your girl but it always seems like she has family commitments. Getting seriously involved with an Asian girl from a poor family can also cause problems, as she may expect you to help her family financially (and when you start down this path, the financial requests will never end!). That being said, you simply need to be aware that Asian families are much more tight-knit and dependent upon each other that your typical disfunctional family in the West. If you meet a beautiful Asian girl who you want to build a serious relationship with, you’ll also need to be respectul of her family. If they embrace you, then there is no question that your Asian girl will love and appreciate you deeply.